Appearance and Worth

Being a girl comes with many challenges. Most come from what seems like superficial beginnings. It is true that looks are not everything but for women, looks are heavily weighted with worth. Telling a young girl that she is ugly can ruin her self esteem for her whole life. Receiving a million compliments cannot outweigh that one sour remark that a little boy made in the fourth grade. Sometimes a comment that is not supposed to be taken negatively can cause just as much damage. For example, telling a naturally skinny girl that she is skinny can hurt. It may seem silly if you are not that girl because maybe you envy her physique, but that could be something she has grown to be self conscious about and now it is something that people point out about her constantly. 

I am not saying this because people tell me I'm ugly or make mean comments like that to my face, but because I am like the girl that gets called skinny. I am 22 and five foot maybe one inch. Everywhere I go people ask me how old I am if they don't know me, and they are completely shocked to hear I am not a teenager. It really grinds my gears especially when people say I look twelve. Come on now, I have been through puberty. I may not be curvaceous like most expect 22 year women to be, but I am clearly not twelve. It is very insulting when people say things like that to me. I am obviously not acting like a teenager or an adolescent so why would you think I was one? Because I am short? 

I have struggled my whole life with feeling inferior to people but God has made me realize I am worth just as much as anyone else. Even though I know that, it is hard from time to time when people think I am a child. How am I supposed to be taken seriously if people think that? It is a problem that I am not sure how to change or how to feel better about. Older women and even young women often tell me how much I will love looking young when I am older. But when does that begin? 

Since there is so much make-up, clothing, and hair products in the world, I figured I could make myself look older with these things. I have changed my hair from short to long and long to short, from red to brown to dark brunette. Nothing has ever made someone say, "Wow, you look your age today." I have figured that there is nothing I can do about it so I just need to stop trying to change my appearance and be happy with what I have. Which, is safe to assume, is much easier said than done. I have days where I feel confident in my own, young looking skin but it can easily be shattered by someone making a comment that they thought I was twelve or sixteen. 

I want to bring awareness to what you say when talking to a girl or a woman. We are fragile creatures even if it seems like we are not. I would suggest not commenting on body size or parts to be safe. Tell her she looks pretty today or maybe compliment her scarf. I don't know. But a good rule of thumb is that if you would not say the opposite of what you want to say, then don't say anything at all. (By that I mean, if you want to tell a girl she is super skinny think about if you would tell someone they looked super fat...probably not. Hopefully not.) 

Thanks for reading my rant. Hopefully it can help spare the feelings of some ladies out there. 

Hot Summer-time Haul

So I have had shopping fever ever since I started my job at the mall this month. But since I just got married, there wasn't any money to spare for splurging really. Then my lovely parents came to visit me with my birthday money and now I have new stuffs! My goal for the shopping was to try and buy more "adult" pieces so people would stop mistaking me for a teenager. I get some pretty crazy looks when I say I'm 22. My style doesn't exactly help all the much so I wanted to get something different.

Turns out I love what I love though and ended up buying the same kind of clothes I pretty much already have. I did, however, end up buying collared shirts I have been lusting after for awhile. I wanted to get something with a sweet peter pan neckline and something that had some edgy-ness to it like the studded collar. But I paired them both with skirts in the store resulting in a very school-girl esque look. Oh well, I like it and that is all that matters. If you can't tell by the picture, the black skirt is pleathery but it's not the sticky kind. I figure it might badass-up my wardrobe a little bit. (Everything in the first picture is from Forever-21.)

I journeyed on to pick up some basics from Aerie (where I work). Everyday I work, I would just stare at those two scarves while imagining myself wearing them. Then they went on sale, so I snatched those babys up! What is even cooler about them than the prints, is that they are infinity scarves. I am such a sucker for an infinity scarf. But yeah...then there are the bralettes (which I realize might be awkward that I took a picture of them). I normally don't buy anything but normal bras, but it is really freaking hot this summer and the bralettes are a nice thin material that breathes easy. Plus they can be worn under shirts or dresses where a normal bra might show and they will still look classy- not trashy. They are really soft feeling, too. I plan to pick up more colors once I get some expendable income.

Last, I went to American Eagle. I am not generally big on buying clothes from there because they are a little steeper than I want to pay, but since I work at Aerie I get a 40% discount at AE, too! So exciting! I found this lovely little black and white cropped top and had to have it. I have seen a ton of fashion bloggers/vloggers with this type of scooped back crop top and I just had to have one. I thought it might make me look a little older than sixteen, unless its the case where someone sees me wearing a crop top and starts to wonder who let their teenager out of the house wearing that. But whatever. And the headband was just something random I picked up. It has tiny little black hearts on it and looks great when I have my hair up.

So that is my haul. Thanks for reading! Stay tuned, I will be putting a post up on my June favorites within the next week!

A little introduction...

All week long I have had ideas running through my mind about all the fascinating and helpful blog posts I could do. But here I am making my very first post on my new blog...and my mind is drawing a blank. It just feels wrong to jump into a blog without introducing myself. It would be much like going out on a date with someone while not knowing their name. Maybe that floats your boat, but I just can't do that. So here is a little information about myself. 

My name is Chelsea, which I am sure you could have guessed by the info section of my blog. I am 22 years old, a wife, and a student. Of course I am much more than that but those are just the basics. In December I should be graduating with a degree in Creative Writing with a minor in Psychology, assuming nothing catastrophic happens between now and then. 

I have many likes and probably just as many dislikes but those aren't important right now. I love to write and have been wanting to start a blog that I could actually keep up with for a long time, so hopefully I can stay disciplined with this one. Things you can expect from me in the future are: 

1) Life lessons/life in general stories

2) Hauls

3) Favorites of the month/season

4) Outfit of the Days

5) Reviews on books

There are probably a ton more topics I will write about in the future but for now that list of five is where my heart is. Especially the life lessons. I hope to be able to reach out to people who are in a place where they are not sure what to do next. I am young but I have had my share of heartache and learning opportunities. 

Thank you for your time and stay tuned for the good stuff!